Dispute resolution isn't about winning - Part 4
Parenting Coordinators guide separated parents toward workable, child-focused solutions. This page explains the process, step by step, without the courtroom battle.
Please note
This explanation reflects the interpretation of the writer only and is not legal advice. Consult a lawyer for an explanation of your own contract. Interpretations may vary, and the BC Court is the ultimate decider of what the terms of a contract mean. This information is offered for general guidance only. If you disagree with anything here, feedback is welcome.
What steps does a Parenting Coordinator take?
Parenting coordinators guide families through a structured process: they clarify the issue, explore child-focused options, and help parents reach a workable path forward. Step by step, the focus stays on implementation, not blame.
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Disputes, Recommendations, and Determinations What happens when parents disagree? Disagreement is a normal part of Parenting Coordination. The process is designed to help parents resolve implementation issues through discussion, information sharing, and problem-solving before a determination becomes necessary. Does the Parenting Coordinator immediately decide who's right? No. Most Parenting Coordination work focuses on helping parents reach agreement whenever possible. A determination is usually not the first step. How does a Parenting Coordinator help resolve a dispute? The Parenting Coordinator may gather information, facilitate discussions, identify areas of agreement, explore options, and provide recommendations designed to help parents resolve the issue themselves. What is a recommendation? A recommendation is non-binding guidance intended to help move a dispute toward resolution. It is not the same as a determination. What is a determination? A determination is a formal decision made by the Parenting Coordinator within the authority delegated by the court order, agreement, or applicable legal framework. How is a determination different from a recommendation? A recommendation can be accepted, modified, or rejected by the parents. A determination is a binding exercise of delegated authority on an issue that falls within the Parenting Coordinator's jurisdiction. When will a Parenting Coordinator make a determination? Generally, a determination is considered when parents are unable to reach agreement and the issue requires resolution in order to implement an existing parenting arrangement. Can a Parenting Coordinator determine any issue they think is important? No. Before making any determination, the Parenting Coordinator must have authority to address the issue. Jurisdiction always comes first. What kinds of issues may be suitable for determination? Implementation issues such as schedules, exchanges, holidays, school-related matters, extracurricular activities, and other practical parenting questions may be addressed if they fall within the Parenting Coordinator's authority. Is Parenting Coordination about proving who was right or wrong? No. Parenting Coordination is generally forward-looking. The focus is usually on identifying what needs to happen next rather than resolving disputes about the past. What if I disagree with a determination? Disagreeing with a determination does not automatically make it invalid. The Participation Agreement preserves review rights and court oversight while expecting parents to participate in the process and comply with determinations unless changed through the appropriate process. What's the key takeaway? Parenting Coordination is designed to help parents reach agreement whenever possible. Determinations are available when necessary, but they are only one part of a broader process focused on implementation, problem-solving, and helping families move forward.
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